Everyone longs to be "in love" and have a deep connection to a partner that will always be there for them. Part of being connected is also revealing your vulnerability. That's not a part of love that we normally look forward to. No one enjoys being vulnerable. Today's guest is Veronica Kallos-Lilly and she is going to guide us through the steps to have a L.O.V.E. connection!

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Why is having a plan for your relationship important? Yesterday we talked about the map for your relationship. So today, I want to talk about why this is important.

In therapy, we learn that we all have a need for attachment in our lives. When we have that one relationship that is truly secure, it will take you to the end of time, and you will feel completely different about life. 

Having a fulfilling life while being attached to another person who will be there through thick and thin; it’s you against the world, is what we all crave. All of us! I’m here to tell you this sort of relationship is possible and if you aren’t there yet, we can get you there!

You can connect with Stuart at www.thecouplesexpertscottsdale.com.

People come to see me all the time to get some help with their relationship. I have a map here that I will use on my vacation. It will keep me from getting lost when I am traveling to areas I’m not familiar with.

Many times when you seek help in your relationship, help is sought out from people that don’t have a map. They don’t know how to keep you from getting lost in your relationship.

That’s one of the most rewarding parts of my work - helping couples follow the map to having a fulfilled and very connected relationship.

You can have the relationship that you always dreamed of. It can be the most rewarding relationship of your life, if you look for the map!

You can connect with Stuart at www.thecouplesexpertscottsdale.com

How many of you have a plan and a strategy for success in your relationship? Everyone that participates in sports understands having a strategy to win and enjoy success. It takes hard work to achieve success in sports, and also in our relationships.

If you have challenges in your relationship that you need some help with, make sure you find someone to help you that has a strategy for success in your relationship. In business, you need a plan and in relationships, you need a plan. This plan will help you overcome the triggers and challenges you face.

You don’t have to settle for a relationship filled with fighting.

You can get in touch with Stuart at www.thecouplesexpertscottsdale.com.

Relationship challenges can be overwhelming. Realizing that each problem is not the same can bring you some relief. You don’t have to attack each problem separately, which makes it seem like there is so much to fix!

Each of the challenges is just a symptom of a problem. Normally, just a couple of problems. So once you decide to solve the problems as a team, then you get rid of all your symptoms at once.

By addressing that main issue together, then it can make all the other issues seem like no big deal.

If you understand how to deal with the issues,not the symptoms, then you can truly make some progress in your relationship!

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What is a map? It helps us understand where you are. It helps you find your way if you are lost. It also helps you know where you are (or should be) headed.

It can be confusing when each partner has a yearning to feel that they are valuable, and connected to the other, but still don’t. Many times people change their physical appearance in hopes of getting the love and attention they want from their partner.

Of course, this is a sad place for your relationship, because it means that love is based on an outward condition, and may be over when the outward appearance changes.

This is why a map is important. You can create a clear plan to have a connection far deeper than anything outward. Having a partner in your life that you are connected to actually changes your life and the science bears it out. You live longer, and have a happier life when you are in a loving relationship. Your entire existence can feel joyful and wonderful, and your outlook on life is more positive, so you are better in every aspect of your life.

1. Establish a relationship that is safe and secure, and each of you view the challenges in the same light. 
2. Establish a relationship where you can share your negative assumptions, interpretations and feelings because you can’t read each others mind. Most importantly, make sure you believe what your partner tells you!

How do you follow this map? Old wounds may surface, and you may get off track. This is where a counselor with the same map can help you stay on track.

Getting caught up in the blame game isn’t helpful. However, when you find your relationship in a vulnerable spot and yet still feel a connection to your partner, it is truly magical.

When you offer your partner a better life and support them unconditionally, then you can experience a connection that is pure bliss!

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Couples who want to stay connected don't have to sweat the small stuff. There are so many areas of your relationship to focus on, so letting little things "get to you" or arguing over the small things can rob you of the opportunity to stay connected to your partner on a deeper level. Keep that in mind as you go through this week, and enjoy the reward of a deeper connection with your partner!

Today’s episode is about making life matter and restoring passion to your relationship. Bruce Van Horn is a marathon runner writer, speaker, a teacher, and a life coach. He is the host of the podcast Life is a Marathon. His mission is to reach, teach, and empower people to live life with the fullest expression of who they were created to be. In his books, podcast, blogs, retreats, and speaking engagements, he uses words to positively change the world. He writes and talks about living to our fullest potential by telling ourselves stories that empower us and also inspire others. 

By re-storying (Bruce’s word-play about restoring passion, purpose, and vision, Bruce helps businesses and individuals rid themselves of limiting beliefs, counter-productive behaviors, and negative self-assessments and replace those with a  new mindset to unleash their true power.  

Bruce emphasizes the importance of instilling gratitude as the foundation of a positive and happy outlook in life and in relationships. By developing and building a sense of gratitude in every situation, event, circumstance, we are able to see the positive side of our life.   

Daily nuggets of relationship advice in just 3 minutes. Join Stuart today as he discusses the curveballs that life throws at us. We all have them!

We’re in the dog days of summer, and it has been extremely hot here in Scottsdale. Sure, folks say “It’s not bad because it’s a dry heat”, but let me assure you that during monsoon season, it is both hot and humid. So the 110 degrees feels every bit of 110. We consider ourselves survivors to just “make it” in this kind of heat. This sort of environment can add frustration to an already tense marriage. So, that’s why we are talking with Jo Muirhead and John Drury. They are a married couple, whose work includes helping you achieve a balance in your marriage through work/life integration.

Both of my guests are well respected in their own niche, and they come together to share with us what it’s really like to have to live what they teach.  John is a mentor, author, speaker and he’s married to Jo. She’s a rehab counselor out of Sydney, Australia. She helps people return to work after an injury or other challenges that they’ve had. They now have a program for high achieving executives, to help them focus on the work/life balance that seems to be elusive.

Today Jo and John are here to put all the pieces together to help us achieve work/life balance!