Thu, 28 December 2017
Welcome to The Couples Expert Podcast episode 143. Stuart’s guest on the podcast is Nicole Burgess, LMFT. Nicole specializes in counseling teens and women. She teaches mindfulness practice as a way to being a more centered and balanced individual.
Direct download: 143_Parents_use_Mindfulness_to_Avoid_Losing_Their_Minds_With_Guest_Nicole_Burgess.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 6:35am PDT
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Thu, 21 December 2017
Welcome to The Couples Expert Podcast.This is episode 142 of our show today we'll be speaking about a divorce that comes on "all the sudden" and how to pay attention to the signs.
Direct download: 142_What_Am_I_Missing__My_Partner_Wants_A_Divorce..mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 7:21am PDT
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Thu, 14 December 2017
Welcome to episode 141 of our show. Today The Couples Expert is going to talk about something that can complicate relationships when people break up or divorce then get remarried.
Direct download: 141_Stop_Dont_Let_In-laws_Become_Outlaws.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 8:14am PDT
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Thu, 7 December 2017
Welcome to episode 140 of the Couples Expert Podcast. In today's show, Stuart is going to talk about a subject that most of you will be familiar with, and some of you may struggle with: That of the impact of Social Media on your life and relationships.
Direct download: 140_Is_Social_Media_Destroying_my_Marriage_.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 8:51am PDT
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Wed, 29 November 2017
Welcome to episode 139 of our show. Your host Stuart Fensterheim has some insights to share with his listeners today about intimate partner relationships and sexual intimacy with your partner; specifically about banishing boredom from your bedroom.
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Wed, 22 November 2017
Welcome to episode 138 of the Couples Expert Podcast. In today's show Stuart is going to share with listeners the secrets to a successful marriage that we all crave to know.
Direct download: 138_10_Secrets_to_Building_a_Successful_Marriage.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 9:00am PDT
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Thu, 16 November 2017
In episode 137 of this week's podcast, Stuart speaks of using humor and positivity to divorce-proof your marriage.
Direct download: 137__Laugh_before_you_cry_using_humor_to_divorce_proof_your_marriage.mp3
Category:Couples Relatiohships -- posted at: 11:00am PDT
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Thu, 9 November 2017
In episode 136 of this week's podcast, Stuart speaks of remarriage & the "Doubt Factor" with special guest Brian Mayer.
Direct download: 136_When_you_Remarry_Where_do_you_Unpack_the_Baggage__With_Guest_Brian_Mayer..mp3
Category:couples relationships -- posted at: 9:30am PDT
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Thu, 2 November 2017
In episode 135 of this week's podcast Stuart speaks of the connections that we have with our siblings in addition to the relationships that we have with our spouses and partners, the sibling connection is a major relationship that we keep near our hearts. What you’ll learn in today’s podcast: • Why family relationships with siblings are so important 6:20 Read the complete show notes here
Direct download: 135_I_Am_My_Brothers_Keeper__My_Sisters_Too.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 8:28am PDT
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Thu, 26 October 2017
In episode 134 of this week’s scary podcast Stuart discusses how important our marriage is to us; the impact on us when we’re struggling in our relationships; how each of us can be harmed. We need to have a good relationship so both of the individuals can thrive singularly in addition to the relationship. What you’ll learn from today’s podcast:
Direct download: Episode_134_-_The_Ghoulish_Side_of_Marriage.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 12:23pm PDT
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Thu, 19 October 2017
October is Domestic Violence Month and our goal here at The Couples Expert is to bring awareness to the challenges and issues that couples face. No one likes to talk about Domestic Violence, not even Stuart, but this is a very real problem that occurs in the shadows of not only the poor urban and economically depressed areas of our country, but the wealthy and affluent homes as well. Listen in as Stuart shines a light on this dark issue. What you’ll learn in today’s podcast:
Direct download: Episode_133_-_Domestic_Abuse_Behind_the_Walls_of_Affluence.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 7:42am PDT
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Thu, 12 October 2017
In episode 132 of The Couples Expert podcast Stuart is reflecting on how blessed we are by the people in our lives. We need to tell those people how much they matter to us. The things that we do for others to make their lives easier are another example of showing how they matter to us. Seeing his wife shop and cook for her elderly parents makes Stuart feel how fortunate he is to have Debbie in his life. She’s a very kind and giving person. If Stuart didn’t slow down and notice sometimes, all of these might pass him by. Does any of this sound familiar to you? It’s really all about love. What you’ll learn in today’s podcast:
Direct download: Episode_132_-_Passion_Perfect__Sharing_Your_Passions_with_Your_Partner.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 1:57pm PDT
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Thu, 5 October 2017
In episode 131 of our show we're going to expand your horizons and your thought processes about the Universe and your relationship with your partner. Stuart has brought Mel Schwartz, LCSW Clinician and author to guest on our podcast. They’re going to discuss Mel’s latest book The Possibility Principle and how the concepts surrounding his study of quantum physics can improve the way you think. There is a correlation to your relationship and the science Mel is studying. Thanks for joining us today. Listen as Stuart and Mel talk about a practical approach to living fearlessly and about his book The Art of Intimacy, The Pleasure of Passion. What you’ll learn on today’s podcast:
Direct download: Episode_131_-_Your_Relationship_and_the_Possibility_Principle_-_Guest_Mel_Schwartz.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 11:42am PDT
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Thu, 28 September 2017
In Episode 130 of The Couples Experts Podcast Stuart discusses the perception that men need to have sex with any or every woman and cannot be friends with females without sex becoming an issue. What you’ll learn in today’s podcast:
Direct download: Episode_130_-_Too_Many_Hens_and_Only_One_Rooster_-_The_Coolidge_Effect.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 2:44pm PDT
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Fri, 22 September 2017
In episode 129 of The Couples Expert podcast the topic is making peace with your divorce before you remarry. That’s pretty deep isn’t it? What Stuart wants our listeners to know is that there is oftentimes work that needs to be done on your part to figure out what went wrong with the prior relationship before you remarry or commit to another relationship.
What you’ll learn in today’s podcast:
Read the complete show notes here
Direct download: Episode_129_-Making_Peace_with_Your_Divorce_Before_Remarrying.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 9:33am PDT
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Thu, 14 September 2017
in episode 128 of The Couples Expert Podcast Stuart talks about married sex and sex in monogamous relationships. Getting married doesn’t mean your sex life is over. When you’re young, just starting out, you may think that getting married or being in a monogamous relationship is going to mean the end of great sex. Stuart discusses how in many ways it’s just the opposite. Please note that the content of this podcast relates to adult themes and parental guidance is suggested. Listen as Stuart talks about married sex. What you’ll learn in today’s podcast:
Direct download: Episode_128_-_Is_It_True_That_Marriage_Will_Kill_Your_Sex_Life.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 11:07am PDT
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Thu, 7 September 2017
Episode 127 of The Couples Expert Podcast is about living and loving in middle age. Stuart is going to answer some burning questions you may have about life after 60. Is it all downhill from here? Take a listen as Stuart addresses the concerns that many of you have about love and aging. What you’ll learn in today’s podcast:
Direct download: Episode_127_-_Is_everything_Downhill_from_here__Life_after_60__Feeling_better_than_I_have_ever_felt.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 11:04am PDT
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Thu, 31 August 2017
In episode 126 of The Couples Expert podcast Stuart’s topic is about the meaning and characteristics of Loyalty in your relationships. There are certain basic characteristics of loyalty in our relationships and Stuart is going to define those and the behaviors that accompany them. What you’ll learn in today’s podcast:
Direct download: Episode_126_-_Why_is_Loyalty_and_Support_So_Important_to_a_Relationship.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 7:50am PDT
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Thu, 24 August 2017
Episode 125 of The Couples Expert Podcast is about financial role reversals in relationships; when the woman is the main earner or breadwinner in the relationship. This can be a touchy and sensitive subject. Tune in and here Stuart discuss the challenges that come with this type of arrangement. What you’ll learn from today’s Podcast:
Direct download: Episode_125_-_Staying_Close_and_Secure_When_the_Woman_is_the_Primary_Breadwinner.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 11:56am PDT
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Thu, 17 August 2017
In Episode 124 of The Couples Expert Podcast with Stuart's guest is Laurie DiLorenzo. Laurie recently joined The Couples Experts in Scottsdale, AZ. Laurie is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) with a varied background in counseling youth, families and couples including Spring Hills Academy Residential Treatment. Today Stuart and Laurie are going to discuss dealing with an angry adolescent. What you’ll learn from today’s podcast:
Direct download: Episode_124_-_How_Do_You_Manage_An_Angry_Adolescent_with_Guest_Laurie_Dilorenzo.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 12:26pm PDT
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Mon, 14 August 2017
In this week's episode of Three Minutes with Stuart, the topic is Interracial Relationships. Stuart talks about race and how we've come a long way as a country, but still there is a long way to go. Interracial couples face the same challenges that other couples face while they attempt to build a life together, but in addition to the day to to day issues that the average couple faces, and interracial relationship may have additional outside stressors antagonizing the relationship. These outside stressors could be family members that reject the idea of race mixing, friends or even complete strangers. It's so important that people in an interracial relationship know and understand that love is love. It has no color. We love who we love. In saying that, the reality is, if you are in an interracial relationship you shouldn't be surprised or caught off guard or hurt if your relationship is not accepted by all. You may run into people who stare at you, or even mumble and say things. That doesn't make it okay, but be prepared. As long as you and your partner work on strengthening the foundation of your relationship, your friendship and love for one another you can have a long lasting thriving relationship.
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Thu, 10 August 2017
Episode 123 of The Couples Expert Podcast is about interracial marriage, or as he likes to call it, simply: marriage. No matter your racial background, the challenges are same for all couples trying to have a close and connected relationship. The struggles in your relationship if you’re an interracial couple more often than not come from outside stressors which sadly can also sometimes include your very own family members. Listen in as Stuart discusses some of the great challenges and joys of being an interracial couple. What Stuart will discuss on today’s podcast:
Direct download: Episode_123_-_Interracial_Relationships.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 2:50pm PDT
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Fri, 4 August 2017
What is Trust in a marriage? In today's video Stuart delves into the topic of trust and what it means to really have trust in your partner.
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Thu, 3 August 2017
In episode 122 of The Couples Expert Podcast Stuart will be discussing issues surrounding trust in your relationship. What you’ll learn on today’s podcast:
Read the complete show notes here
Direct download: Episode_122_-_How_to_Define_Trust_in_a_Relationship.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 9:36am PDT
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Fri, 28 July 2017
Today's Three Minutes with Stuart is all about building a lifelong monogamous relationship with your spouse.
Direct download: How_To_Build_A_Life_Long_Monogamous_Relationship.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 12:03pm PDT
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Thu, 27 July 2017
Episode 121 of The Couples Expert Podcast is all about the challenges and expectations of having a monogamous relationship. Is it realistic or even possible to live with, love and be happy with only one person? Listen as Stuart discusses this very important subject today. We’re happy to have you with us. What you’ll learn on today’s podcast:
Read the complete show notes here
Direct download: Episode_121_-_Is_It_Realistic_to_Expect_A_Life_Long_Manogomous_Relationship.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 1:44pm PDT
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Fri, 21 July 2017
The mornings can be very stressful during the school year. In today's Three Minutes with Stuart,Stuart shares some helpful tips for couples and parents to help ease the stress and make the mornings run more smoothly. Why Is Having A Morning Routine Important? Establishing a morning routine with your family make things easier on everybody. Over time with repetition things will become easier as you and your children adjust and everyone knows what to expect. Doing some thing the night before can help ease the stress of the morning as well. For instance, having your children pick out the clothes they are going to wear to school before bedtimes avoids last minute panic if they aren't able to find an article of clothing or something needs to be ironed because of too many wrinkles. Your mornings set the tone for the rest of your day. The smoother your morning runs, the more likely your day will get off to a great start and everything else will fall into place. Be sure to watch the full video for all of Stuart's helpful morning routine suggestions. If you practice some of these tips, morning this school year should flow much better for you and your family.
Direct download: How_To_Make_the_Mornings_Tolerable_During_the_School_Year.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 5:25pm PDT
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Thu, 20 July 2017
In Episode 120 of The Couples Expert Podcast Stuart’s guest, Sharmeen Mahmud, is a specialist in working with children, teens and families. She’s worked in the CA school system as a school -based counselor and clinician to help families meet their educational goals for their children for about ten years. Stuart and his guest Sharmeen will be talking about children going back to school; how to maintain a close connection as a couple and still attend to the children’s needs. Listen as Stuart and Sharmeen talk about all aspects of helping children and families adjust to back to school. It’s surprising how much anxiety and worry can accompany school prep, both for kids and for their parents. Sharmeen and Stuart discuss how preparedness and realistic expectations can help with these issues both for the parents and the children going to school for the first time. On Today’s Podcast:
Direct download: Episode_120_-_Getting_Our_Relationship_Together_for_The_School_Year.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 2:33pm PDT
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Fri, 14 July 2017
People look for love in all the wrong places when the person sitting next to you may be the love that you are longing for.
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Thu, 13 July 2017
In episode 119 is about how the attachments you have in childhood can affect your adult relationships. This may not be something that you’ve thought a lot about and you may even be surprised at how much sense this makes to you. Listen as Stuart explains the correlation between the way your family relationships were with the caregivers in your childhood and the way you relate to your partner. This podcast is being released on the day that Stuart’s nephew by marriage will get married. Family issues often are brought out during these types of family events. It’s always interesting to see how traditional family roles are played out when the family gets together and how it will affect the event. This relates to our podcast today since we’re talking about how a child is raised and how their attachments were met(or not met) have a huge influence on the person they grow up to be. What you’ll learn in today’s podcast:
Click here to view the complete show note
Direct download: Episode_119_-_Why_Childhood_Attachments_Are_Important_to_Having_a_Healthy_Marriage.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 9:09am PDT
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Fri, 7 July 2017
Timeouts are an effective tool that couples can use when things are really heated and starting to get out of control. However, so many couples use time outs the wrong way.
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Thu, 6 July 2017
In Episode 118 of The Couples Expert podcast Stuart discusses anger and the impact it has on relationships and marriage. Anger is something we all deal with at one time or another, and it’s a sure bet that one or both of you will get angry from time to time. It’s what happens when you’re angry that impacts the relationship with your partner. How you handle your anger and how you manage these strong emotions are what really matters. Listen as Stuart discusses this week’s topic of the impact of anger in your marriage. Quote: “It is impossible for you to be angry and laugh at the same time” Wayne Dyer Anger and laughter are mutually exclusive and you have the ability to choose. I hope you choose laughter.
What you’ll learn on today’s Podcast:
Direct download: Understanding_What_The_Anger_in_Your_Marriage_is_Really_About.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 1:04pm PDT
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Sun, 2 July 2017
In this episode of Three Minutes with Stuart, Stuart talks about a relationship checkup.
Direct download: Why_A_Relationship_Checkup_Is_Good_For_Couples.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:02pm PDT
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Thu, 29 June 2017
In episode 117 the Couples Expert Podcast Stuart, talks about how healthy and happy couples can also benefit from relationship counseling before they get into difficulties.
Love and relationship maintenance is just as important for your relationship as mechanical maintenance is for your vehicle. Learn to think of your relationship counselor as an on-call love mechanic. Get those regular tune ups and make sure your relationship is running smoothly and able to handle any bumps along the road of life. What you’ll learn from today’s podcast: • A common issue that Stuart finds in his office practice at 5:07 • How to stay best friends with your partner at 8:30 • Habits of successful couples, challenges and a prescription for a happier life at 9:56 • Finding opportunities to be together as a couple at 17:08 • Gratitude, compromise and finding solutions at 20:00
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Fri, 23 June 2017
How important are the relationships that we have in our lives? Could a relationship with a person make the difference between choosing to live and contribute to the community or choosing to destroy the community and take away from it? In today's episode of Three Minutes with Stuart, The Couples Expert, the topic is the importance of the different relationships we have in our lives, but even more important is the relationship we have with our partner. Stuart talks about being kind and how the smallest act of kindness can effect someone in a positive way. With all the negativity and chaos that is happening in the world around us, we have to be sure that we bring joy, light and happiness into our own personal world with the people who are in our lives.
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Thu, 22 June 2017
Episode 116 - Empathi.com A Fun and Engaging Process to Find Out Who You Are in Love with Guest Figs Sullivan
Tune in to the 116th episode of The Couples Expert Podcast! Stuart’s guest is Fig’s O’Sullivan, an emotionally focused therapist. He’s created an app for couples (see Empathi.com) to have a deep and authentic vulnerable love together. It’s a coaching program that helps couples get closer together. There is science that has informed us about how to have a healthy and more satisfying relationship by re-training your brain to be more loving together. This podcast is reaching all around the world and the conversations that we have are very genuine and authentic. Technology has allowed The Couples Expert to reach out to experts like Figs O’Sullivan and we’re so happy to have him with us on the podcast today. Listen as Stuart and Figs discuss Empathi and how the website and app help couples improve their relationships. What you’ll learn from today’s podcast:
represent emotions at 30:30
Direct download: Episode_116_-_Empathi.com_and_A_Fun_and_Engaging_Process_to.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 2:19pm PDT
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Mon, 19 June 2017
The good news is that the divorce rate has dropped from 50% to 30%. That's great news actually. It means that couples are finding ways to work through their differences and stay committed to their vows to be together for a lifetime. But what happens when you feel alienated or alone in your marriage? What do you do when the bridge for communication with your partner has collapsed and there is no understanding between the two of you?
If you are feeling alienated or alone in your relationship you have to let your partner know how you feel. So many divorces and failed relationships are the end result of a breakdown in communication. All of us have a need to be understood, and having a loving connection with our partners is crucial to the overall success of any long term relationship. Remember, why you fell in love with your partner in the first place and try to do something fun that the two of you both enjoy together to start the process of rebuilding your friendship with one another and re-establishing your connection. The more time you spend enjoying each others company and having fun with one another, the easier it will be to start talking about things again.
Direct download: The_Horror_of_Alienation_in_Your_Marriage.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 11:16am PDT
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Thu, 15 June 2017
In episode 115 of The Couples Expert Podcast Stuart’s topic is Discernment Counseling with Sanya Bari from Mountain Lakes, New Jersey where she counsels couples in trouble. She works to help them look at their decisions in a new way that allows them to make a less impulsive and more informed decision about whether to end their marriage or to do the work needed to save it. Listen as Stuart and Sanya discuss the details and benefits of discernment counseling for couples on the brink of divorce. What you’ll learn on today’s podcast:
If they want to continue in the relationship at 20:53
Direct download: Episode_115_-_Discernment_Counseling_and_How_Marriages_Can_Be_Saved_Even_at_the_Brink_of_Divorce.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:22pm PDT
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Wed, 7 June 2017
In episode 114 of The Couples Expert Podcast Stuart discusses the unique relationships between “copreneurs.” These are couples that are in love and in business together. Many of them are the power couples that seem to have it all going for them. They have to balance work, home and their romantic relationships in order to to be successful. Take a listen as Stuart gives some insight on what skills and habits copreneur couples need to have for them to be healthy and happy in all aspects of their life and work. Stuart visited his father in Hollywood, FL recently. They had a great visit on their brief vacation together and went to a sporting event. They reminisced about trips they took when Stuart was a child when they would go to the Yankee games and do father/son activities. The time they spent together with Stuart’s dad was so special. Stuart’s dad is 90 years old, so it’s a thrill for them to be able to spend time together. Stuart gives us a reminder about connecting with the important people, especially elderly parents before it’s too late. Quote: “It’s amazing how much you can accomplish when you don’t care who gets the credit. “ Harry S. Truman When you’re building a life and a company together you cannot be in competition with your partner. You both have to have a shared vision and purpose in order to succeed. What you’ll learn from today’s podcast :
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Fri, 2 June 2017
Today's episode of Three Minutes with Stuart is particularly important because Stuart speaks about a very important issue that is seldom talked about. PTSD and the first responders who may suffer from post traumatic stress disorder. First responders are a truly unique type of people. They put their lives on the line everyday and make sacrifices for the safety of the community at large. During the course of their work shift they come in contact with all types of situations. They may experience the joy of saving a life or helping someone in the community that is in need, to witnessing the loss of life and feeling helpless that they were not able to prevent someone from dying. Many times first responders suffer silently. It's so important if you are in a relationship with a first responder that you and your partner have strong communication with one another. Allowing your partner to share with you their feelings about what they have been through on the job is important. Sometimes they may just want to be alone to process their feelings. Giving them space to do so is also okay. Can EMDR Therapy Help People with PTSD? EMDR therapy is primarily used for people suffering from trauma and PTSD. It’s especially helpful for reprocessing the memories associated with all kinds of trauma whether it’s violence or natural disaster. Often when people suffer from these types of trauma, they are unable to move past the event in their mind. They replay it over and over again, and when this happens, the memories that are triggered feel just as painful and intense as the initial event. This causes people to become stuck in their past and unable to move forward in life and relationships. As you can imagine, this can cause a great deal of emotional conflict and chaos in families and relationships. People suffering this type of PTSD are helped by EMDR therapy to reprocess the memories and calm the emotions that surround them. When they have completed the therapy, ideally they will have a better perspective on the events. If they do become triggered, they will not react as intensely, and will be able to calm themselves more readily. When they have a handle on these emotions and memories they are more able to deal with the other relationships in their lives and feel generally more trusting, confident and happy. This opens the door for healthier relationships to parents, children and life partners. Interested in EMDR for PTSD? Learn more here:
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Thu, 1 June 2017
Welcome to episode 113 of The Couples Expert Podcast. We have an unusual topic this week; first responders and the importance keeping your connection strong. If you have a first responder in your family, are married to one or have a friend who is, take a listen to the podcast today. First responders are those brave individuals who run towards danger when everyone else is running away. It takes a special kind of grit and purpose to do that kind of work. It also takes a special kind of person to be in a relationship or be married to a first responder. It can be a chaotic, sometimes lonely kind of life. Stuart talks about some of the special challenges associated with being in a relationship with a first responder. Whether they be armed forces, reserve military, police, fire or other emergency services, these special individuals give a lot of themselves to the job. The partners, families and spouses of first responders are some of the most compassionate and flexible people in the world. Listen as Stuart discusses life with a first responder partner and how to keep your relationship close and connected.
What you’ll learn from today’s podcast:
Direct download: Episode_113_-_Having_a_Close_Relationship_with_Your_First_Responer.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 11:30am PDT
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Sun, 28 May 2017
In today's episode of Three Minutes with Stuart, The Couples Expert explains the importance of a family vacation and a couples vacation.
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Thu, 25 May 2017
In Episode 112 of The Couples Expert is all about summer fun. Get ready for some fun suggestions and ideas to make your summer vacation the best ever! The fun and memories that you create together helps to sustain you through future challenges and over the rough spots in life. Thanks for joining us today. Enjoy your summer kick off with Stuart. What you’ll learn on today’s podcast:
To view the complete show notes click here
Direct download: Episode_112_-_Fun_Things_for_Couples_To_Do_in_the_Summer.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 10:15am PDT
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Fri, 19 May 2017
In today's episode of Three Minutes with Stuart, Stuart talks about renewing wedding vow, and shares wedding vows that he wrote for his wife Debbie. After being married to someone for several years we learn that the love we had in the beginning of our marriage is not the same as the type of love that develops from being married to someone for through life's challenges over the course of many years. Typically, the love you have for your partner has grown deeper, and your bond should be stronger. That's why one of the most beautiful and rewarding moments a couple can have, especially if they have successfully completed counseling, is to renew their commitment to one another. This can be expressed by renewing your wedding vows. Renewing your wedding vows is a beautiful and symbolic way to announce to the world that you STILL feel optimistic and joyful about their future together, and that you are still in love with your partner and wouldn't want to be in this world, going through life's ups and downs with anyone else.
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Thu, 18 May 2017
In episode 111 Stuart talks about a goal he sets for couples who come to his practice which is the renewing of their vows or a recommitment ceremony. Please listen as Stuart gives some insight and some great ideas for ways that couples can make their vow renewal a fantastic experience for all involved. What you’ll learn on today’s podcast:
Direct download: Episode_111_-_The_Importance_of_Renewing_Your_Vows.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 11:21am PDT
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Fri, 12 May 2017
Mother's Day is right around the corner and as we prepare to celebrate the woman in our lives that raised us, or our wives and grandmothers, we thought it important to acknowledge the women who are in the role of mother for children who are not biologically theirs.
Direct download: Which_Mother_Is_A_Priority_on_Mothers_Day.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 1:07pm PDT
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Thu, 11 May 2017
Episode 110 of The Couples Expert Podcast is all about appreciating all the special women in our lives, but particularly our mothers and the mothers of our children. Listen as Stuart recounts his growing up in a blended family and the lessons he learned about the importance of his Mother and her role in the family. He also had a Stepmother whom he loved and was very influential in his life. He talks about ways to honor the important women in your life this Mother’s Day, (Sunday, May 14th). What you’ll learn from today’s podcast:
View the complete show notes here
Direct download: Episode_110__-_How_to_Appreciate_the_Women_in_Your_Life_on_Mothers_Day.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 11:18am PDT
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Sun, 7 May 2017
In today's Three Minutes with Stuart, Stuart shares what a couple that truly wants to move forward and heal their relationship after an affair must do.
Direct download: How_to_Overcome_Infidelity_in_a_Marriage.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 7:13pm PDT
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Thu, 4 May 2017
In Episode 109 of The Couples Expert Podcast Stuart’s guest is Jim Thomas. Jim Thomas is an internationally known speaker, EFT guru and teacher. He and Stuart are going to be discussing sexuality, infidelity, monogamy and long term partnerships. Please Note: The language in this podcast may not be suitable for small children. We advise parental guidance. Please take a listen to Stuart and Jim’s candid and genuine discussion of sex, love and relationship issues around the topic of infidelity. What you’ll learn from today’s podcast:
Click here to view the full show notes.
Direct download: Episode_109_-_Infidelity_and_Your_Relationship_with_Guest_Jim_Thomas.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 12:59pm PDT
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Mon, 1 May 2017
The question of infidelity, and what is infidelity comes up a lot with couples. It can be a confusing topic because there's more than one type of infidelity. Of course the most commonly known type of infidelity is sexual or physical infidelity. Having intercourse is not the only way that sexual infidelity takes place. Touching, hugging, kissing, caressing and holding hands are all parts of sexual infidelity. In today's Three Minutes's with Stuart, Stuart discusses sexual infidelity, along with emotional infidelity and financial infidelity.
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Thu, 27 April 2017
In episode 108 of The Couples Expert Podcas Stuart’s guest is Dr. Charlie Glickman, a writer and sexuality educator who teaches workshops and seminars on sexuality. Listen as he and Stuart discuss sexuality, travel and keeping your sexual intimacy strong in a long-distance relationship. What you’ll learn from today’s podcast:
Click here to view the full show notes
Direct download: Episode_108_-_Travel_Sex_and_Long_Distance_Relationships_with_Charlie_Glickman.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 11:55am PDT
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Fri, 21 April 2017
In today's 3 Minutes with Stuart we get the answer to the question many of us who have suffered the loss of a loved one have sought the answer to; is it betrayal to move on with your life? Are you betraying your partner that has passed on if you start a relationship with someone new? Should you feel guilty if you develop feelings for someone new? How do you move forward after losing someone you love? The answers to these questions and more in today's episode!
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Thu, 20 April 2017
In episode 107 of The Couples Expert Podcast Stuart talks about a deeply personal topic for him as he observes Patriot’s Day which celebrates one of the first battles of American Revolution at Lexington and Concord in 1775. This date (April 19th) became the day that was chosen for the running of the Boston Marathon and it’s been run every year since 1897. It’s also the birthday of Stuart’s sister, who lives very near to where the race starts. As you know the terrible bombing occurred at the Marathon in 2013. This terrorist attack on the marathon participants and spectators affected thousands; not only those in Boston but their family members all around the world. Stuart’s sister and family usually attended the race as spectators, so you can imagine how anxious and worried he was when he heard the news about the bombing. Listen in as Stuart tells the story and talks about the impact of grief and loss on your relationship. What you’ll learn in today’s podcast:
Direct download: Episode_107_-_Patriots_Day_and_the_Impact_of_Grief_and_Loss_in_Your_Relationship.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 10:08am PDT
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Thu, 20 April 2017
This week we've been focusing on grief and loss at the Couples Expert. Many of us have experienced losing someone that was very dear to us. It could have been a husband or wife. We could have suffered through the loss of a family member, like a grand parent, aunt, or sibling.
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Fri, 14 April 2017
In today's Three Minutes with Stuart video, Stuart shares how his wife Debbie and him celebrate Passover and Easter as an interfaith couple. He explains how an interfaith sedar takes place and what his family does when they come together for this holiday.
Tune in and share in the celebration!
Direct download: Celebrating_An_Interfaith_Sedar_Setting_Outside_of_Sagewood_Passover_Table.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:58pm PDT
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Thu, 13 April 2017
In the 106th episode of The Couples Expert Podcast Stuart’s topic is the Easter and Passover holidays that we’re celebrating this week. This year Passover began on Tuesday and Easter is Sunday. Stuart and his wife Debbie have an interfaith marriage where they support each other in their respective religious practices and celebrate both Jewish and Christian holidays with each other and their extended family. Listen in as Stuart talks about what an interfaith Passover/Easter celebration looks like at the Fensterheim household. How special it is that families that come together to celebrate their diverse beliefs, and what a blessing it is to have our elders together with our extended family. We have a wonderful opportunity to take lessons from the past and apply them to today. Not all families are as fortunate. Stuart wants to share what this is like for his family.
Easter and Passover bring the thread of the past into the present. When we observe what our forefathers had to endure and how they persevered and triumphed. We get to celebrate that this strength and dedication and how essential it is to us as a people. Celebrating this in the Jewish faith means that we keep the story alive through the retelling it to our children so they can pass it along to their kids and on through the generations to keep these lessons alive. What you’ll learn from today’s Podcast:
Direct download: Episode_106_-_Interfaith_Passover_and_Easter_-_Taking_Relationship_Lessons_from_the_Past.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 2:47pm PDT
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Fri, 7 April 2017
What does it mean to have courage to you? We hear stories in the media and from friends and family about people who have done courageous things all the time.
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Thu, 6 April 2017
In Episode 105 of The Couples Expert Podcast Stuart talks about going “all in” in our lives and in our relationships with our partners. It's “Go For Broke” week , a fun holiday on April 5th. Tune in to hear how you can go for broke in your relationships. Going for broke is always fraught with hope and anxiety. You can’t win it all if you don’t go for broke. Do you believe in your relationship enough to go all in and invest everything on your love life? Take a listen here as Stuart talks about what this means in your relationship. What you’ll learn on today’s podcast:
Direct download: Episdode_105_-_Go_For_Broke_Day_April_5th.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 5:44am PDT
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Mon, 3 April 2017
It seems like a new online dating website springs up every month, and more and more people are comfortable with online dating.
Direct download: Do_You_Have_A_Deeper_Connection_When_You_Are_Online_Dating.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 7:33am PDT
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Thu, 30 March 2017
In episode 104 of The Couples Expert Podcast Stuart’s guest is Marisa Cohen; an Assistant Psychology Professor St. Francis College in Brooklyn, New York and the Director of Self Awareness and Bonding Lab. Her work centers on the science of relationships and gender differences. Today’s discussion will be about online dating and finding love online. Listen as Stuart and Marisa delve into this interesting topic. What you’ll learn from today’s podcast:
Being open and honest when completing your online profile will increase the chances of developing a relationship that will last. Don't misrepresent yourself. Click here to view the full show notes
Direct download: Episode_104_-_Can_Online_Dating_Lead_to_Marriage.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 11:28am PDT
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Fri, 24 March 2017
The following quote is taken from the book "A Return to Love" by Marianne Williamson: “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” After reading the inspiring words of Marianne Williamson above, ask yourself the following questions: Do you accept who you are and love being YOU? or Do you change your behaviour, adjust your feelings to appease others or to feel validated by someone else? Whether you like yourself or not, the fact remains there is no where you can go to avoid YOU from tagging along with you. So since you have to take YOU wherever you go, it makes sense to start loving and appreciating YOU for who YOU are. In today's video I talk about about authenticity, and being authentic in your relationship with your partner. Living an authentic life with your partner allows you the freedom to be yourself and means you can be secure in the knowledge that you don’t have to hide anything from them. They are going to love you and value you because of (and in spite of) your showing every side of yourself, every wrinkle and wart, and every broken part of you. Plus the more you are authentic, the more confident you will become. The more you like yourself the more others will like you too, especially your partner. A key foundational block of your relationship is honesty. Another is trust. How can you be truly honest with your partner if you are living a lie instead of being authentic and living an authentic life?
Direct download: Be_True_to_Yourself_and_Have_an_Authentic_Relationship.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 9:37am PDT
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Fri, 24 March 2017
In episode 103 of The Couples Expert Podcast Stuart’s guest is Robina Meehan, an “Emotional Renovator”. Her specialty is connecting with women. She guides women as a facilitator to help them live a more authentic life. We want to send a huge thank you to Jo Muirhead for referring Robina to the podcast. Stuart and Robina discuss how being who you truly are, is the path to happiness. What you’ll learn from today’s podcast:
Direct download: Episode_103_-_Authenticity_with_Guest_Robina_Meehan.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 7:43am PDT
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Thu, 16 March 2017
In today's Three Minutes with Stuart talks about the upcoming St. Patrick's Day holiday and why it's another opportunity to show your partner how important they are to you.
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Thu, 16 March 2017
In Episode 102 of The Couples Expert Podcast is our Happy St. Patrick’s Day episode. We’re not always talking about weighty and somber issues. This week we’re going to have some fun and celebrate a uniquely American Irish holiday. I love this St. Patty’s Day quote that says “A Best Friend is like a 4 leaf clover~ Hard to find and lucky to have” Unknown. How wonderful when your partner is your best friend. You are indeed lucky. You need to cultivate that friendship. There’s more to love than chemistry or physical attraction. Making a long-term relationship work requires your commitment to being a best friend to your partner every day. What you’ll get from today’s podcast:
Direct download: Have_a_Fun_and_Romantic_St._Patricks_Day.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 10:13am PDT
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Fri, 10 March 2017
In episode 101 of the Couples Expert Podcast Stuart talks about a subject that impacts many families and relationships; prescription drug addiction. It’s not a pleasant issue, but one that Stuart feels very strongly about. He has helped many couples overcome and repair the damage to their relationships caused by addiction. Stuart discusses this problem and some solutions. “Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out.” – Robert Collier This quote applies to recovery, repairing your relationship (making amends in the 12 step program) , and getting through your day without using drugs. You have to do it as they say, “One day at a time” , but sometimes you have to do it one hour , one minute, and one moment at a time If you can get through this moment and the next , you will eventually have hours, days, weeks and months of success. In today’s Podcast you’ll learn:
Stuart hosts a weekend couples workshop monthly called Two Days, Seven Conversations – based on Dr. Sue Johnson’s Book Hold Me Tight®. Register now for March and April weekends. These workshops always fill up fast. Click the link here to register for your spot in an upcoming weekend. http://www.thecouplesexpertscottsdale.com/hold-me-tight/ Click here to view the complete show notes.
Direct download: Prescription_Drug_Addiction_and_Your_Relationship.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 7:24am PDT
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Sun, 5 March 2017
In this three Minutes with Stuart video, Stuart talks about the last year and half experience being the host of The Couples Expert Podcast. He also shares plans for the future for the show, introduces Stuart's Daily Notes and more.
Direct download: Milestones_Ahead_in_the_Relationship_Journey.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 10:10am PDT
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Sun, 5 March 2017
In the 100th episode of the Couples Expert Podcast Stuart does something a little different for this milestone podcast. He has invited a guest from the listening community to interview him and share the broadcast. Stuart’s guest on the show is Virginia Curtis, an equine professional who works in equine- assisted psychotherapy and learning, and is also on the Board of Directors for Project Spirit Equine Rescue and Rehab, a horse rescue in southern Oregon. What you’ll hear today:
You Make the Difference Stuart mentions Episodes 88 and 93 as recent shows that really stand out as important to him. He also did a series on infidelity that he feels is very important to his listeners.
Direct download: 100th_Podcast_Celebration_of_Relationship_Milestones.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 7:50am PDT
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Mon, 27 February 2017
Tune in as I talk about how kindness plays a role in being a good wife. I plan on doing another video about being a good husband in the future.
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Fri, 24 February 2017
Episode 99 of The Couples Expert Podcast is all about love and kindness, because that’s what we’re all about here at The Couples Experts. First we have Valentine’s Day (Podcast 98), and then this episode for Random Acts of Kindness Week. Random Acts of Kindness Week In This podcast Stuart talks about showing kindness to your partner, not just one week in February, but all throughout the year, and how being kind to not only your partner, but everyone you meet can absolutely change your life for the better. It seems like our world has become harder and colder in recent times. Let’s bring some kindness back into our everyday interactions with the people we love, and those we meet along the way! Never underestimate the power of a small act of kindness when it’s given unexpectedly. Our hope is that after you listen to Stuart today, you’ll commit to being a part of this kindness movement to make everything a little bit nicer. “Act from kindness but don’t expect gratitude” ~ Confucius What you’ll learn from today’s episode:
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Thu, 23 February 2017
Tune in and listen as Stuart talks about Random Acts of Kindness and a recent experience that his wife Debbie had while she was purchasing coffee, and how the act of kindness from one person effected everyone that was in the cafe in such a positive way.
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Thu, 16 February 2017
Episode 98 of The Couples Expert Episode is all about love, connections and Valentine's Day. Stuart talks about having a special Valentine’s Day that sends the right message. We all want to have the most close and connected relationship and be the best partner we can be for each other. Listen as Stuart talks about ways to have the best Valentine’s Day with the one you love. Celebrate your love on Valentine’s Day and every single day. Quote: All you need is love. But a little chocolate now and then doesn't hurt. Charles M. Schulz That’s because chocolate makes you feel like you’re in love. I will never understand people who say they don’t like chocolate. Chocolate makes a perfect Valentine’s Day gift because that sweetness makes us think of our loved one even after Valentine’s Day is over. What you’ll learn from today’s podcast:
It’s not enough to buy just material gifts for your partner. Gifts should also be symbolic of the depth of feeling that you have for each other. You want your partner to know that their happiness matters to you and the gift you choose is representative of that feeling.
Direct download: Have_A_Close_and_Connected_Valentines_Day.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 10:58am PDT
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Fri, 10 February 2017
In episode 97 of The Couples Expert Podcast Stuart and Risa Ganel talk about physical and emotional health and how it relates to your relationship. Risa Ganel is a marriage and family therapist who practices in Columbia, MD. Listen as she and Stuart talk about physical and psychological health and the impact on love and relationships. What you’ll learn from today’s broadcast:
Click here to view the complete show notes
Direct download: Physical_Health__Relationships_with_Risa_Ganel.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 11:13am PDT
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Fri, 10 February 2017
In this extended episode of Three Minutes with Stuart, Stuart talks about the importance of being healthy and staying fit as a couple. Besides improved overall health which leads to less stress, sleeping better, and living longer, when you're healthy you're a better you which makes you a better partner in your marriage.
Direct download: Marriage-Counseling-The-Importance-of-Being-Physically-Fit.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 6:05am PDT
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Fri, 3 February 2017
In Episode 96 of the Couples Expert Podcast Stuart discusses relationship issues and a little bit of history of the evolution of same sex relationships and acceptance of them in our society. Today’s show is “Love is Love”. One of the things that Stuart has found in his work as a couples expert is that same sex couples struggle with many of the same relationship challenges as straight couples do. There are also some unique problems and issues that gay marriages face that don’t affect their straight counterparts. Can gay couples find true love? Can they have happy marriages? Stuart answers these questions and more today on the podcast. Quote: Marriage should be between a spouse and a spouse, not a gender and a gender. —Hendrik Hertzberg We love who we love. There’s attraction, there’s chemistry and there’s all those things that draw you to an individual. Sometimes it’s a surprise when you find that the person you’ve fallen for is the same gender as you. For some it’s understood that they’ve always and only been attracted to the same gender. For others, gender has no bearing on it. Society likes to label these people as LGBTQ and so on. Beyond all the labels you’re really just in love. It’s a person not a gender, not a label. Love is love.
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Thu, 26 January 2017
In the 95th Episode of The Couples Expert Podcast Stuart talks about ways to take your good relationship and make it truly great relationship. The truth is, greatness resides in all of us; you merely need to know how to tap into it and bring it out. Each relationship has room for improvement, and if you listen today, you will learn that even if you think your relationship is going fine, it’s good, you can make it even better. Shoot for the stars!
Quote:” When someone else’s happiness is your happiness that is love.” When you’re in a great relationship, you and your partner are so in synch, so close and connected that you are each other’s happiness. All of the love and emotion that you feel is linked to your partner. If they’re sad, you feel it. You share both joy and sorrow together. All the negative and positive emotions are felt by both of you and your main purpose in life is to make each other happy. Your relationship will take priority over anything else that’s happening and your mission in life is to have that relationship with your partner where you feel connected, close, and important. Tune in to Episode 95, Turning A Good Relationship Into A Great Relationship.
Direct download: Turning_A_Good_Relationship_Into_A_Great_Relationship.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 1:39pm PDT
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Thu, 19 January 2017
Tune in to the 94th Episode of the Couples Expert Podcast! In this episode Stuart and his special guest talk about the latest innovations in research and information on love and relationships. This podcast is all about some newer therapeutic tools and techniques that are being used to help individuals and couples. Especially those who have had trauma or suffering in their past.
When it comes to healing, no matter what you’re healing from love is the answer. Because wiith love, everything is easier, you don’t feel alone, and you can trust the one you love to support you and be there for you and help you as you heal. Sometimes it’s the mere presence of the one you love that makes you feel secure and safe. The love that you and your partner share helps you to heal from past hurts and allows you to look ahead towards the future. Stuarts guest on the show this week is Jackie Leger, LPC. Jackie recently joined the Couples Experts as part of the clinical staff. She specializes in EMDR therapy. EMDR stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing. This therapy model is being used extensively for trauma and PTSD sufferers with excellent results. This is used in conjunction with traditional talk therapy with great success.
Direct download: Discussion_of_EMDR_with_Guest_Jackie_Leger.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 11:30am PDT
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Thu, 12 January 2017
In this episode of the Couples Expert Podcast Stuart will talk about someone he greatly admires, Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. Dr. King’s life and message was all about love, peace and affecting change without violence. These are attributes that are definitely still needed in the world today. Stuart talks about some of the lessons he learned about love from Dr. King Stuart discusses some of the lessons he learned about love from Dr. King. Whether you remember Dr. King, and the incredible impact he had on this country during the era of the Civil Rights Movement, or not; even if you’re in the generations that have grown up since his untimely death in 1968, his influence and his great words still echo down through history. Love is the answer. What you will learn today:
The takeaway from the message of Martin Luther King, Jr. is that love in action is the most powerful force in the Universe. That hate meeting hate, anger and violence meeting anger and violence only creates more of the same. What we need is to put love in action in our everyday lives, with our partners and our family and friends. Quote: “Wars are poor chisels for carving out peaceful tomorrows.” MLK
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Thu, 5 January 2017
In this episode of The Couples Experts podcast, Stuart welcomes Couples Expert Kelsey Blythe to discuss issues surrounding being prepared for marriage and setting yourselves up for a lifetime together in a happy and successful marriage. Kelsey is new to the Couples Expert staff, and has been a warm and wonderful addition to the team. She is running the premarital program at the Couples Experts and we’re very happy to have her on board. Kelsey herself has recently gotten engaged to be married so she will be speaking on a personal as well as professional level on the topic of premarital counseling. Take a listen! In this episode you will learn:
Premarital counseling can help couples to prepare for their marriage by opening up discussion on topics ranging from finances to family planning. Couples learn how to communicate on a deeper level and are prepared to navigate the bumps in the road that inevitably come during marriage.
Direct download: Relationship_Advice_-_Preparing_for_Marriage.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 2:27pm PDT
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