Today on episode 151 of The Couples Expert Podcast, Stuart is going to talk about what moves him to help couples. The type of counseling that he does is called Emotionally Focused Therapy, or EFT. Stuart is going to talk about what EFT is all about and how it helps couples and families feel more connected and learn how to meet each other’s attachment needs; what they need to feel loved and important to one another. You should only seek help for your relationship by a counselor that uses this EFT model and subscribes to an attachment based theory. All relationship problems are attachment based problems, lack of emotional connection, the behavior is only a symptom.

What you’ll learn from today’s podcast:

• Emotionally Focused Therapy & The Gottman Method use the EFT process
• (an attachment model) for counseling couples   [3:42]
• What is EFT and why it’s unique in counseling [6:45]
• EFT techniques are used to reframe negative patterns and then change the conversation   [8:00]
• How negative patterns affect how we view our partners [13:30]
• EFT is research and science based with high success rates and measurable results [16:40]
• The goal is to learn the language of attachment [20:07]
• Identifying and addressing the cycle you’re in with your partner [22:55]

This is episode 150 of The Couples Expert Podcast. Stuart's topic today is romance and Valentine's Day. This episode, is about the other 364 days of the year where you have an opportunity to be just as romantic as you would on Valentine's Day.

Romance is not about Valentine’s Day! You don’t love your partner only on February 14th. If that’s the only day you’re showing love to your partner, there’s something terribly wrong! Listen as Stuart brings you some valuable insight into romancing your partner all throughout the year.

Hello and welcome to this episode of The Couples Expert Podcast with Stuart Fensterheim. This is show #149. We’re so glad you’ve chosen to join us as we talk about love and connection. Stuart’s topic today is the importance of family celebrations. You may wonder what that has to do with your love life or relationship. Stuart believes that the family connections we keep teach our children to model healthy love relationships in the future, and that having a strong bond with your siblings and parents, cousins and elders is extremely important.  Listen as Stuart discusses the importance of coming together for family celebrations.

Stuart is celebrating this month because not only is February the month of love and romance because of Valentine’s Day, his youngest daughter is turning 21! That calls for a family celebration. We all need to take the time to come together to celebrate the all important milestones of life. Make every day count and celebrate life. Time is shorter than we realize and it passes oh, so quickly.

This is episode 148 of our show. Stuart's guest today is Vicki Hadfield, also known as The Happiness Ambassador and Love Lifter. She and her husband Richard have developed a program surrounding "The Supportive Spouse." It’s all about having happiness in your home and your relationship with your partner, and that is Stuart’s goal too. Listen and Stuart and Vicki discuss what it means to have (and be) a supportive spouse and stop the nitpicking and bickering that we sometimes do with our partners.