Hi and welcome to The Couples Expert with your host Stuart Fensterheim. This is episode 185 of our show. Today Stuart is talking about boundaries in a relationship. There are many different boundaries that you can set in your life, and your relationship. Today Stuart pulls boundaries apart and helps you to learn how to set healthy boundaries in your relationship.

What you’ll learn from today’s podcast:

• Are boundaries even necessary in a relationship [1:45]
• Boundaries should be clearly defined [3:17]
• What do healthy boundaries include? [6:43]
• Where are our limit? [8:42]
• Is it ok to have friends of the opposite sex? [9:20]
• How to set limits with your partner [12:02]
• Emotional affairs [15:17]
• Unconditional love [19:10]
• Honesty [20:30]
• Self-control [23:10]
• Looking inwardly [25:25]
• Learn how to forgive [26:30]
• Summary of boundaries [28:10]

Unless your boundaries are clear, direct, and adhered to, your relationship is going to be a challenge. If you have that, your relationship will be one in which both of your feel so good about it and know that you are with that one person in the world that you get to spend the rest of your life with.

Until next time, Stay Connected

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Email: Stuart would love to hear from you. If you have a comment, review, or suggestion for a topic Stuart can tackle in the future, please email him at podcast@thecouplesexperts.com

This podcast was inspired in part by:

13 Boundaries Your Relationship Needs to Survive, by Ossiana Tepfenhart

Next time on The Couples Expert Podcast:

Join us next time as Stuart discusses authenticity, being yourself and feeling good enough.

Hi and welcome to The Couples Expert with your host Stuart Fensterheim. This is episode 184 of our show, and it is dedicated to Alvin Fensterheim. Today Stuart is talking about the importance of Father and Son relationships. The relationship between a father and son is one of the most important relationship. This relationship will lead to a good relationship with your spouse.

Stuart’s own Dad passed away almost 1 year ago, and his experience with the loss of that important relationship.  Stuart and his wife went to New York city recently where his Father is buried. Stuart’s family spent time reflecting on his Father, Alvin’s life, and the ending of a year of Shiva.

What you’ll learn from today’s podcast:

• Love is the absolute most important thing you can share with your family [7:25]
• Teach your son about being a man, in the truest sense [9:45]
• Demonstrate every single day that love is pathways to having a good life [13:55]
• Having shared interests [16:20]
• You should never do anything in your life that you don’t enjoy [17:38]
• Dedication to your family [23:13]
• Negativity about Grandparents needs to be off-limits [23:40]
• Building projects together [25:00]
• Demonstrate to your son, that you care about what they think and feel [26:32]
• As Fathers we need to focus on the positives with our sons [28:00]
• God picked us to be together [30:55]
• We are one family [32:50]
• Spirituality [34:12]

The father and son relationship will establish that both of you feel loved and important. You are lucky to have one another. Those messages echoing back for years and years, makes your relationship really important.

Have a very Happy Thanksgiving!

The Couples Expert Podcast is sponsored by: The Hold Me Tight Workshop – Presented by The Couples Expert. 2 Days and 7 Conversations that can change your life.

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Email: Stuart would love to hear from you. If you have a comment, review, or suggestion for a topic Stuart can tackle in the future, please email him at podcast@thecouplesexperts.com

This podcast is dedicated to Alvin Fensterheim

Hi and welcome to The Couples Expert with your host Stuart Fensterheim. This is episode 183 of our show. Today Stuart is talking about sexual communication inside and outside of the bedroom. This episode is for couples in a long-term committed relationship, you are there for the long-haul.  This is one of the more difficult discussion for a couple to have, and Stuart will help to make it easier.

Today’s podcast contains adult material, so please use discretion when listening or use your headphones!

Stuart and his wife are currently on vacation in New York city. They are visiting family, enjoy the culture and people watch, as well as visit the 9/11 museum. This is a time they they spend connecting and spending time together without the distractions.

What you’ll learn from today’s podcast:

• Stop expecting your partner to read your mind [4:10]
• Your job is to keep your partner interested [6:30]
• When you want to talk about your sex life, don’t do it when you want to engage in sex [9:10]
• Give your suggestions both verbally and non-verbally [10:45]
• Talk about your experience [14:00]
• Playfulness [15:30]
• What turns you on? [19:20]
• Communicate your needs [22:30]
• Most men are not interested in having quick sex [23:30]
• No need to fake an orgasm [24:45]
• Steps to have a conversation about sex [26:30]

Sexopoly: https://www.amazon.com/Sexopoly-Adult-Board-Couples-Friends/dp/B0035ETLJY

When you are ready to have a discussion with your partner about your sex life use these steps:

1. Tell your partner how much you care about them.
2. Give them a clear message about what is not working for you. Choose only one area to discuss at this time.
3. Follow up with something positive. Talk about what works really well in your sex life.
4. Suggest that you have the conversation again in the future.
5. Talk about how much you love being intimate with them.

Do not discuss how it went with other partners. This is only about what works for the two of you. You want to discuss this in kind and loving ways. You want to show and tell your partner what you need, to bring the two of you to a pleasurable place. Really make sure your partner knows that who they are is more important than anything else, and that you are lucky to have them in your life. The two of you can accomplish anything as long as you do it together.

The Couples Expert Podcast is sponsored by: The Hold Me Tight Workshop – Presented by The Couples Expert. 2 Days and 7 Conversations that can change your life.

Learn more: https://www.thecouplesexpertscottsdale.com/hold-me-tight/

Subscribe to the podcast on iTunes:https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/the-couples-expert/id951362894?mt=2

Email: Stuart would love to hear from you. If you have a comment, review, or suggestion for a topic Stuart can tackle in the future, please email him at podcast@thecouplesexperts.com

Until next week, keep working, keep soul-searching and stay connected!

This podcast was inspired in part by:
Conscious Man, by John Grey and Arjuna Ardagh
Jill Donato’s article on Communicating During Sex to Make it Better for Everyone