In episode 91 of The Couples Expert Podcast!  It’s the last show for 2016 and Stuart is discussing how to set realistic and meaningful relationship goals for the New Year. We all want to do better and be better and the New Year is the new beginning that many of us use as a jumping off point for furthering our goals. The Couples Experts would like to thank you for a great 2016. Take a listen while Stuart discusses some ideas for 2017. 

What you will learn in this episode: 

• Why we set goals instead of resolutions (12:20) 

• Goals are promises you make to yourself (15:00) 

• How to follow up and check in with your partner regularly  (16:18) 

• What you should include in your goal lists (21:15) 

• Some important suggestions for your growth as a couple.(32:00) 

• Share your lists and compare together  (33:50)

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In this special holiday edition of the Couples Expert Podcast, Stuart talks about his interfaith family and gives us a look inside how interfaith couples navigate the unique challenges that come at the holidays.

In this episode you'll learn:

• Standing up for your traditions is important ([9:03])
• It is possible to blend two religious traditions into one celebration  ([10:40])
• Helping those less fortunate can lift your holiday spirits ([15:30])
• This is a great time to make amends and repair relationships  ([18:00])
• Interfaith families have a unique responsibility to educate their children in both faiths  ([20:25])
• The richness of partners and families sharing faith and tradition ,the Hanukkah story. ([21:40])
• Some important takeaways related to family traditions at the holidays ( [29:50])

Tune in and enjoy!

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The 89th episode of the Couples Expert Podcast is all about Baby Boomers and the Empty Nest. Join Stuart as he discusses all the changes that couples go through when sending their kids out on their own for the first time.

Stuart talks about how we raise our kids and prepare them to be on their own and the challenge of transitioning from full-time parenting to being a full-time couple. Couples need to spend some time preparing for this eventuality. Stuart gives you some tips on how to do that.

In this episode you will learn: 

• The Empty Nest transition can be an emotional time
• Roles change and we need to redefine who we are in relation to our adult children- Stuart discusses the emotions and challenges that accompany this transitional time.
• Planning for this time helps with the emotions and changes; a lot of couples forget about that.
• One of the most positive things about being an empty nester: We can focus on ourselves and our relationship with our partner.
• We can pursue our dreams and our “Bucket List” together- What are some of the things you want on the list?  This is the time for you and your partner to discuss your future plans and get together on what you want to do in the future. Do you want to travel, retire; sell the house? Whatever it is that you want to do, you have some decisions to make. Make your “bucket lists” now so you don’t miss out on what you’ve always wanted to do.

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Episode 88 of The Couples Expert Podcast is a special podcast because it touches on something deeply personal for Stuart. He talks about raising a child with a chronic illness or special needs and how the love and support of the family are needed in order to accomplish this.

Stuart’s daughter was born with a disorder called Esophageal Atresia/Tracheoesophageal Fistula (EA/TEF for short). Stuart and Sarah’s mom had incredible challenges in raising her. They had to adapt , learn and overcome so much in Sarah’s early childhood.

No parent would wish to have a sick baby, but when that happens, there is a shift in what’s important in a parent’s life. Stuart and Sarah’s mom were her staunchest advocates and there was more than one time that they had to step up to make sure that Sarah was getting the proper care. They learned to live in the moment and not to wish things were different. They also never blamed each other for Sarah’s problems. To accept that this was the hand their child was dealt and this is the life she was given. This gave them a sense of calm about things and no regrets about “what if’s”. Stuart discusses how you need to separate the child from the illness and teach them that their condition is just something they’ll have to deal with and get on with life. No sense in wishing it were otherwise.

Stuart discussed how celebrations of all the firsts in life  are exponentially more joyful because they are so meaningful because Sarah’s mom and Dad never thought they’d ever get to have those firsts with their child.

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Thank you for joining us and welcome to Episode 87 of the Couples Expert Podcast!

In this week’s episode Stuart talks about having healthy relationships during Thanksgiving; How we can learn to be appreciative and thankful for those people that make our life richer and more full. Especially our life partners. These are the people that are always there for us in so many ways. We are very grateful for the love in our lives and we can make this Thanksgiving holiday the best we’ve ever had with our partners.

Stuart reminds us of the paradox of thankfulness; of how when you begin to appreciate the good things in your life, you are able to find more to be thankful for.  If we get into a habit of looking for those things to be grateful for, it really becomes an “attitude of gratitude” which makes life better.

Stuart discusses how the travel and obligations of the holidays can cause anxiety and stress but whether you’re cooking for a crowd, stuck at the airport or having a quiet intimate get together with immediate family, it all depends on how you see it. If you spend quality time focused on your relationship with your partner, you can have a great time connecting together. Make a commitment to each other and determine to make the holiday about connecting with each other and your children. Avoid letting the little things getting you down, make it special and meaningful and make some great memories.

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In Episode 86 of the Couples Expert Podcast Stuart is discussing how to help couples to take their relationship from “good” , to fun and exciting. There are ways to keep your relationship feeling brand new no matter how long you’ve been together as a couple.

Couples that have been together for a long time can get into predictable routines. While that’s not always a bad thing, (our routines keeps us comfortable and secure), when life becomes too predictable you can find yourselves in a rut. Stuart is going to give you some ideas for keeping your relationship new and fun and injecting some spontaneity into your life.

“Couples that laugh together , Last together” Dr. John Gottman

Laughter and Play

Stuart talks about how laughter and play can help to strengthen your relationship and finding our sense of humor helps us to get through even the toughest times. If you can learn to lighten up, you’ll have a more joyful outlook on everything in life. Stuart advises couples not to take themselves too seriously, to laugh and love together and have fun.

This week marks the 85th episode of The Couples Expert Podcast!

This week Stuart speaks with his guest Emily Bouchard, MSSW. Emily works with couples and families about money issues. She helps families understand where the triggers about money really stem from and teaches them how to have difficult conversations without money landmines blowing them up!

Stuart and Emily discuss why money issues can affect couples so dramatically and can leave them feeling disconnected. Many people are uneducated about how to talk about money and 70% of families fall apart when money gets transferred. It happens when people come into large sums, or when money is redistributed, a business is sold, or when a blended family is involved and there are issues about ownership of shared property. There can be anger and resentment about expectations from family members about what is fair and right. Things can get very complicated the more layers of family that are added. It’s a challenge to make it fair where there may not be equal distribution or equal ownership within the family members. The more money you have, the more complex the issues within the family can be.

These are a few of the emotional explosive landmines that catch you off guard. Emily likens these to an invisible electronic barrier fence. You don’t know it’s there until you run into it. In her work she teaches people how to turn the voltage down. It can still sting, but it won’t kill or blow you up.

Protections come up, then you think “don’t go there,” So you avoid the conversation altogether until BOOM - you found the landmine! Stuart explains how emotions under the surface can explode when they’ve been between you and keeping you from connecting with the people you love.

Stuart talks about the triggers that come up when money conflicts arise and how understanding what’s needed to have these conversations empowers couples to navigate these difficult issues. From his emotional attachment work, Stuart shares the underlying dynamics about trust and need and why money problems can tear you apart as a couple.

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In the 84th episode of the Couples Expert Podcast Stuart speaks with his guest, Robert Cox, and they discuss substance abuse and alcoholism.

Substance abuse is extremely widespread and far-reaching problem and for those families who have an addict or alcoholic in their homes, it can be a devastating experience. Robert and Stuart discuss how this is a family problem and the importance of the entire family’s involvement in setting boundaries and sometimes giving tough love to the addict in order to preserve the relationships within the family.

Self- care and coping is not an option, it’s a “have to” - if you want to stay healthy in order to deal with the problem of substance abuse in a partner or family member.

Stuart does a lot of work with couples whose relationships are impacted by addiction. Not only drugs and alcohol but other addictions such as food, sex or gambling can also be addressed by seeing a couples counselor. You can learn more on The Couples Expert website http://www.thecouplesexpertscottsdale.com. Stuart and his staff offer a free 30 minutes consultation for new clients to learn about how therapy works for these types of issues.

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In this Halloween- themed episode Stuart gives couples who’ve been “spooked” in their relationship some alternatives to divorcing. Stuart believes that unless there are extremes of violence and substance abuse issues, that divorce is NOT the answer to your marital problems.

We can get into negative cycles and repeat those patterns in our relationships. Wanting to break out of those is scary but once each partner relates all of the qualities about their partner to these negative cycles, their instincts are to get away from the negativity, and the person with whom they associate the negativity. Without the tools to fix the problems people feel helpless and want to give up and /or run away.

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In episode 82 of the Couples Expert Podcast Stuart talks about the last stage of life, love and relationships. We’ve raised our kids, they’re out on their own and maybe having families of their own and  here we are with our partners rattling around in our empty nest. It can be a tough time if you’re not prepared for it. Leaving you feeling kind of lost and alone. You may have been living separate lives and now need to get reacquainted. Now is the time to start this last stage of your long term life and relationship by seeing your partner in a new way and rekindling the love and connection between the two  of you.

Stuart also discusses how we need to set boundaries with our adult children and in our role of grandparents. If you don’t discuss and agree on where those boundaries are, it can cause huge problems in your relationship. We need to support and communicate with our adult children but never meddle or interfere. We can feel proud that we launched our adult children and that they are doing well. They can be equipped to handle their own loving relationships because we’ve modeled a healthy partnership for them.

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This week’s podcast topic is a bit different. This is week 2 of the 3 stages of a relationship. Last week we talked about the early stages of a relationship. So, today’s it’s phase 2, which covers the stage of raising children. There are so many challenges that come with parenting, so I am bringing on an expert to handle the topic. So today we talk about ways to handle those challenges, while still maintaining a close, connected relationship that will allow you to feel loved and supported. 

It’s also important that as you and your partner maintain a close and committed relationship, that the children also feel connected and secure in their relationship you, as well as their place in the family. By modeling this kind of relationship to your children, you are showing them how to act in a relationship.

Today’s guest is Dr. Robert Pate, a Counselor, and Psychologist from Huntington Beach, CA. Dr. Pate has a private practice in Orange county. He’s here to guide us through these conversations  about how to maintain healthy parental relationships with your children, while maintaining your relationship as a connected couple. 

You can read the full show notes and access the links and resources at www.thecouplesexpertscottsdale.com

This is a place where you can come to learn ways that you and your partner can take your relationship to the next level. There’s nothing in the world that can compare to having a relationship where you know you are accepted exactly as you are, where you and your partner are in this journey together and will take on any challenges that come in your path. 

My wife and I were talking the other day, and I was asking her what it was like to be in a relationship with me. Sometimes I like to hear the perspective of my wife, just to see how I’m doing. She said that one of the things she loves about me is my gentleness and my kindness. She said that I was one of the kindest people she knew. Now, to be honest, I really wanted her to say I was sexy, or strong or virile and all of these other things, but she came out with kindness and gentleness!

In actuality, my wife gave me a gift. You see kindness is a characteristic that I can carry throughout my life. It doesn’t fade with age or looks. It doesn’t depend on me looking or feeling a certain way. It’s just a characteristic that I have in my life that will be with me as long as I live. So having this sort of admiration from my wife, makes me feel secure and makes me feel like I can be myself with her, and not every couple can feel that way.

My wife is genuinely one of the most good natured people I have ever known. She rarely does anything to stir me up, because I know she has no ill intentions. It makes us unique as a couple because we can truly be ourselves, without the risk of rejection.

Each relationship has different phases:

1. Newlywed and early years with children
2. Raising the family and building a career
3. Empty nest and growing older together in retirement

Over the next 3 episodes, we will discuss each of these phases in-depth.

You can read the full show notes and access all the links and resources at www.thecoupleexpert.com

I’m so excited about today’s podcast. It will help so many of you get more out of your relationship. Has anyone had to be your dream killer? My life’s passion is working in the field of therapy to help couples enjoy their relationships. Today’s topic is infidelity. It’s a sad part of relationships. Affairs come in various forms - financial affairs, emotional affairs, sexual affairs. It doesn’t have to spell the end of your relationship. You can come back after an affair and have a committed and beautiful relationship.

Alicia Taverner is a licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, with a Bachelor's Degree in Speech Communications from the University of La Verne, and a Master's Degree in Clinical Psychology from Pepperdine University.

Alicia specializes in helping women find the calm within the storm of some of the most difficult relationship struggles such as infidelity, divorce, and break-up. Alicia is also a trained Discernment Counselor, and helps couples explore options for continuing their relationship despite some very heavy challenges. She resides in the Inland Empire with her husband and two children. Her personal passions include biking, snowboarding, yoga, and spending time with family and friends. 

You can read the full show notes at www.thecouplesexpertscottsdale.com.

Being in a relationship is hard work. Add to that, being part of a couple where both are entrepreneurs, and you end up with a completely different dynamic. The sacrifices involved in entrepreneurship can be that you sacrifice relationships for the pursuit of wealth.

Is it possible to have a balanced relationship, a growing business and not sacrificing financial success in the meantime? That’s what our guest today is here to talk about. Leisa Peterson has a program that will get you to this point in your life.

Leisa Peterson has spent the last 25 years in the money business. She was drawn to it because she had some deep scarcity issues. Eventually, she was able to do more “in the business” by being aware of how money affects people.

Join us for this enlightening conversation!

You can read the full show notes and access all the links and resources at www.thecouplesexpertscottsdale.com

Today’s guest is Cait Wotherspoon and we are talking about grief and loss. We’ve just passed the 15th anniversary of 9/11 and our mood has been somber and reflective in observance of that horrid day. My brother was actually in a meeting in the World Trade Center a day or two before the attack. It really makes you realize that we have so much to be thankful for and how much we should appreciate the relationships we have.

With our relationships, we take in information and analyze it, and assign ow own interpretation of that information, and that colors our interactions with those people in our lives. If we didn’t do that, we could be much freer in our relationships. Much of Cait’s work deals with the grief of losing a child.

Cait Wotherspoon is a Therapist from Australia. She grew up wanting to be a prima ballerina and at 14, she became a ballet teacher and choreographer. She ended up meeting her husband later and it changed the course of her life. She had a toddler and was expecting twins, and one of her twins passed away, and she had multiple other family tragedies on top of that. I am so glad to welcome Cait to the show to talk about the very important topic of dealing with grief and loss.

You can read the full show notes and access the Cait's FREE gift at www.thecouplesexpertscottsdale.com

This year I’m doing a podcast on my birthday. On September 18, I will be 61. As a look back over my life, I can see how my relationships have shaped my entire life. My relationship with my significant other has allowed me to have a perspective on this world that it’s a great place to be. 

Things haven’t always been great, though. I know what it’s like to have a darkness in your perspective that comes from you not knowing that you are accepted, loved and connected to another person in a significant way. You can even begin to question what the point of life is. It’s a really bleak place to be. 

I’ve been on both sides of the relationship extremes, and I want to talk to you about what I did to go from disconnected, dark and bleak, to connected, happy and optimistic. My wife Debbie has been the one person in my life that has made it worth living!

Having a relationship with a therapist isn’t always easy, if you aren’t in the same field. But I am in an environment everyday that is happy, fulfilled and filled with positivity. It makes me see the world through a clearer, brighter lens. I am a better person and all the things I enjoy doing are more fun than ever. 

People talk about relationships as if they are optional. Without connected relationships, our world is dark and bleak.

In this episode, we talk about why love is so much more than a 4-letter word! Join us!

How is your relationship? What words would you use to describe it? Is it simply good, or is it great? Is it ordinary—or exceptional? You know, there is nothing to rival the safety and security of a committed, loving relationship in which you KNOW that your partner cares for you above all others and ALWAYS has your back. 

My guest today is an expert on conflict and couples. Anne Goshen helps couples feel close and secure with each other, using the Gottman method of attachment therapy. Anne is also a fellow podcaster; her The Couples Toolbox podcast is coming in mid-September! Join me to learn more about Anne and her work.

You can read the full show notes and access all the links and resources at www.thecouplesexpertscottsdale.com

What comes to mind with the word vacation? You may envision a tropical locale, a snow-covered ski slope, historic European cities, or a getaway filled with adventures. What you may not realize, though, is the impact of vacations on couples and relationships. The essential ingredient in a vacation is time set aside for ourselves and our partner. A vacation will reveal things about you and your connection to your partner. Vacations are CRITICAL!

My wife and I just returned from an incredible vacation in the Mediterranean. We took a cruise to Rome and visited Spain and Italy. We spent much time connecting with one another in a stress-free, relaxed environment. We returned feeling refreshed and recharged both individually. There is no doubt that our relationship was strengthened by our time away. Let’s dig deeper into some of the benefits of VACATIONS!

You can read the full show notes and access all the links and resources at www.thecouplesexpertscottsdale.com

Welcome to the 72^nd episode of The Couples Expert podcast! Today’s show is dedicated to actor Leonard Nimoy, who died in 2012 of COPD. I grew up as a Trekkie to beat all Trekkies---the ultimate fan of the original Star Trek series. Listen along, and you’ll see why I call this episode, Vulcan Marriage.

Relationships---they enrich our lives in SO many ways. If you are fortunate enough to be in a relationship with a partner, then you know that relationship is very special. It’s the relationship that brings more meaning and significance than anything else in life. And you know, we really all want the same thing: to know that we have a relationship with a partner that is special, authentic, and transparent. We want to feel secure and significant. 

How do we achieve these relationship goals? Fortunately, it’s NOT a guessing game. We have the answers! That’s what this show is all about! We want to turn disconnection into connection, on this wonderful journey called LIFE. Our tips, experts, and advice will show that relationship change CAN be created, and can impact your friends, colleagues, children, and grandchildren. Today’s solo episode topic is the debate whether LOGIC or EMOTION is the best quality in a relationship.

You can read the full show notes and access all the links and resources at www.thecouplesexpertscottsdale.com

Trauma---and connection. Have you ever thought about the relationship between the words? Can true connection exist in a world tainted by trauma? Fortunately for many, the answer is YES. Trauma can steal SO MUCH of the good from our lives and affect relationships in extremely negative ways, but there is HOPE. My guest today is committed to bringing hope, healing and connection to those who have experienced trauma. I’m excited to introduce you to Laura!

Laura Reagan, LCSW-C, practices in Maryland, working specifically with individuals and couples affected by trauma. Laura and I actually met online in a Facebook group, discussing our practices and podcasts. We proudly bond as Terrapins from the University of Maryland! Laura’s podcast is Therapy Chat—definitely worth your time in listening! Laura is a Daring Way facilitator, which is a therapy technique based on the research of Dr. Brene’ Brown. She also implements Sensorimotor Psychotherapy in her practice. 

Laura explains why she found a home within the trauma niche of therapy. After taking classes about violence against women and children, Laura was intrigued by the reasons behind abusive behavior and the oft-repeated cycles of abuse. Children, no matter how young, can experience harmful emotional effects from domestic violence taking place around them. Through her work at a sexual assault crisis center, Laura felt compelled to devote her life’s work to helping people recover from the long-term effects of trauma. She works now to provide therapy, to stop the cycles, and to be part of the CHANGE.

You can read the full show notes and access all the links and resources at www.thecouplesexpertscottsdale.com

Everyone longs to be "in love" and have a deep connection to a partner that will always be there for them. Part of being connected is also revealing your vulnerability. That's not a part of love that we normally look forward to. No one enjoys being vulnerable. Today's guest is Veronica Kallos-Lilly and she is going to guide us through the steps to have a L.O.V.E. connection!

You can read the full show notes and access all the links and resources at www.thecouplesexpertscottsdale.com

Why is having a plan for your relationship important? Yesterday we talked about the map for your relationship. So today, I want to talk about why this is important.

In therapy, we learn that we all have a need for attachment in our lives. When we have that one relationship that is truly secure, it will take you to the end of time, and you will feel completely different about life. 

Having a fulfilling life while being attached to another person who will be there through thick and thin; it’s you against the world, is what we all crave. All of us! I’m here to tell you this sort of relationship is possible and if you aren’t there yet, we can get you there!

You can connect with Stuart at www.thecouplesexpertscottsdale.com.

People come to see me all the time to get some help with their relationship. I have a map here that I will use on my vacation. It will keep me from getting lost when I am traveling to areas I’m not familiar with.

Many times when you seek help in your relationship, help is sought out from people that don’t have a map. They don’t know how to keep you from getting lost in your relationship.

That’s one of the most rewarding parts of my work - helping couples follow the map to having a fulfilled and very connected relationship.

You can have the relationship that you always dreamed of. It can be the most rewarding relationship of your life, if you look for the map!

You can connect with Stuart at www.thecouplesexpertscottsdale.com

How many of you have a plan and a strategy for success in your relationship? Everyone that participates in sports understands having a strategy to win and enjoy success. It takes hard work to achieve success in sports, and also in our relationships.

If you have challenges in your relationship that you need some help with, make sure you find someone to help you that has a strategy for success in your relationship. In business, you need a plan and in relationships, you need a plan. This plan will help you overcome the triggers and challenges you face.

You don’t have to settle for a relationship filled with fighting.

You can get in touch with Stuart at www.thecouplesexpertscottsdale.com.

Relationship challenges can be overwhelming. Realizing that each problem is not the same can bring you some relief. You don’t have to attack each problem separately, which makes it seem like there is so much to fix!

Each of the challenges is just a symptom of a problem. Normally, just a couple of problems. So once you decide to solve the problems as a team, then you get rid of all your symptoms at once.

By addressing that main issue together, then it can make all the other issues seem like no big deal.

If you understand how to deal with the issues,not the symptoms, then you can truly make some progress in your relationship!

Contact Stuart at www.thecouplesexpertscottsdale.com.

What is a map? It helps us understand where you are. It helps you find your way if you are lost. It also helps you know where you are (or should be) headed.

It can be confusing when each partner has a yearning to feel that they are valuable, and connected to the other, but still don’t. Many times people change their physical appearance in hopes of getting the love and attention they want from their partner.

Of course, this is a sad place for your relationship, because it means that love is based on an outward condition, and may be over when the outward appearance changes.

This is why a map is important. You can create a clear plan to have a connection far deeper than anything outward. Having a partner in your life that you are connected to actually changes your life and the science bears it out. You live longer, and have a happier life when you are in a loving relationship. Your entire existence can feel joyful and wonderful, and your outlook on life is more positive, so you are better in every aspect of your life.

1. Establish a relationship that is safe and secure, and each of you view the challenges in the same light. 
2. Establish a relationship where you can share your negative assumptions, interpretations and feelings because you can’t read each others mind. Most importantly, make sure you believe what your partner tells you!

How do you follow this map? Old wounds may surface, and you may get off track. This is where a counselor with the same map can help you stay on track.

Getting caught up in the blame game isn’t helpful. However, when you find your relationship in a vulnerable spot and yet still feel a connection to your partner, it is truly magical.

When you offer your partner a better life and support them unconditionally, then you can experience a connection that is pure bliss!

You can read the full show notes and access all the links and resources at www.thecouplesexpertscottsdale.com

Couples who want to stay connected don't have to sweat the small stuff. There are so many areas of your relationship to focus on, so letting little things "get to you" or arguing over the small things can rob you of the opportunity to stay connected to your partner on a deeper level. Keep that in mind as you go through this week, and enjoy the reward of a deeper connection with your partner!

Today’s episode is about making life matter and restoring passion to your relationship. Bruce Van Horn is a marathon runner writer, speaker, a teacher, and a life coach. He is the host of the podcast Life is a Marathon. His mission is to reach, teach, and empower people to live life with the fullest expression of who they were created to be. In his books, podcast, blogs, retreats, and speaking engagements, he uses words to positively change the world. He writes and talks about living to our fullest potential by telling ourselves stories that empower us and also inspire others. 

By re-storying (Bruce’s word-play about restoring passion, purpose, and vision, Bruce helps businesses and individuals rid themselves of limiting beliefs, counter-productive behaviors, and negative self-assessments and replace those with a  new mindset to unleash their true power.  

Bruce emphasizes the importance of instilling gratitude as the foundation of a positive and happy outlook in life and in relationships. By developing and building a sense of gratitude in every situation, event, circumstance, we are able to see the positive side of our life.   

Daily nuggets of relationship advice in just 3 minutes. Join Stuart today as he discusses the curveballs that life throws at us. We all have them!

We’re in the dog days of summer, and it has been extremely hot here in Scottsdale. Sure, folks say “It’s not bad because it’s a dry heat”, but let me assure you that during monsoon season, it is both hot and humid. So the 110 degrees feels every bit of 110. We consider ourselves survivors to just “make it” in this kind of heat. This sort of environment can add frustration to an already tense marriage. So, that’s why we are talking with Jo Muirhead and John Drury. They are a married couple, whose work includes helping you achieve a balance in your marriage through work/life integration.

Both of my guests are well respected in their own niche, and they come together to share with us what it’s really like to have to live what they teach.  John is a mentor, author, speaker and he’s married to Jo. She’s a rehab counselor out of Sydney, Australia. She helps people return to work after an injury or other challenges that they’ve had. They now have a program for high achieving executives, to help them focus on the work/life balance that seems to be elusive.

Today Jo and John are here to put all the pieces together to help us achieve work/life balance!

In the 66th episode of The Couples Expert Podcast, A Groundhog Day Marriage, Stuart talks about some of the ways in which couples find themselves trapped in their own time warps of negative cycles as Bill Murray was in the movie "Groundhog Day", a story about a man who finds himself trapped in a bizarre time warp which forces him to relive the same day over and over again, making the same mistakes over and over again. Do you find yourself making the same mistakes with your partner day after day, caught in a cycle of negative relationship patterns? Many of us do, and sometimes it is extremely difficult to extricate ourselves from these repetitive actions and words, like trying to get off some evil merry-go-round that just won’t stop! In this podcast Stuart offers some practical solutions on how to get out of negative cycles. 

The accepted medical definition of infertility is the inability for a couple to conceive or carry a pregnancy to term after a year of frequent, unprotected sex. In episode 65 of The Couples Expert, Stuart speaks with Erika Labuzan-Lopez about the complicated emotions a couple experiences when one or both partners is infertile.

In the 64th episode of The Couples Expert we talk about how a therapy dog can be the best thing that happens to your relationship. Dogs are known as "man's best friend", well they an also be a best friend to your relationship too.

In the 63rd episode of The Couples Expert Podcast,Listen to Pooh and Love Your Partner with Your Heart, the topic is sexuality and intimacy. What it fundamentally comes down to is finding intimacy not through our parts, but through our hearts. Join Stuart and Jim as they discuss the nature of intimacy, the true meaning of eroticism, and what it means to be passionate.

In the 62nd episode of The Couples Expert Podcast: Couples Coping with Cancer, Stuart Fensterheim speaks with Wander Garnder about one of the most devastating events that can occur in a relationship, receiving a diagnosis of cancer. For both patient and partner, the fears and worries of what is to come can be overwhelming.

In the 61st episode of The Couples Expert Podcast: Why Couples Should See Someone Trained in EFT, Stuart speaks with Brittainy Wagner of Tidemark Therapy about Emotionally Focused Therapy. EFT is a psychotherapeutic model that was developed by doctors Sue Johnson and Les Greenberg, resulting from intensive research into relationships and how emotions, rather than behavior, are central to our ability to develop meaningful and lasting connections. Taking attachment theory to the next level, the idea is not to change merely how a person acts or reacts, but to help them learn to transform negative emotions into emotions that will motivate compassion, interaction and closeness. Approximately 80% of couples who have experienced EFT have found success in their relationships.

In the 60th episode of The Couples Expert Podcast, Stuart talks to us very personally about why and how affairs happen, focusing primarily on the workplace and the added dilemmas office affairs create. He provides guidance on how to prevent affairs from happening, and what needs to occur at home before the temptation can get out of control. He discusses the choices that a person who is considering having an affair must make, how vital the timing of those choices are, and the consequences that need to be considered.

In the 59th episode of The Couples Expert Podcast: Gabriel’s Angels – Champion to those Needing Connections Stuart speaks with Pam Gaber of Gabriel's Angels about the most amazing, heart-warming acts that dogs perform every day in saving the lives of abused and neglected children, simply by being their friend.

In the 58th episode of The Couples Expert Podcast: Ollie the Wonderdog, He Brings Love to Us All, Stuart’s wife Debbie joins him to talk, reminisce, laugh, and rejoice in the wonderful love they have for dogs, and particularly for their adopted dog, Ollie. Ollie is a yellow Labrador Retriever whom Stuart and Debbie adopted from their nearby rescue service for which they serve as regular fosters. He has not only brought incredible joy into their lives, but has made a significant impact on their relationship with each other, and even on their relationships with other members in their community.

In episode 57 of The Couples Expert Podcast, Stuart speaks with Dr. John Robinson, a naturopath physician, who he met in a business meeting a while. Both Stuart and John have a similar mission in finding a method to help people have a relationship where both people feel important and know that the feelings that you have are real and authentic relationships.

The topic of the 56th episode of The Couples Expert Podcast is A Caring Divorce Attorney… Is There Such a Thing? In this episode Stuart speaks with Ryan Claridge, a divorce attorney in Maricopa County, about the divorce process and what to expect if you are contemplating a divorce. Last year, in the state of Arizona alone, more than 24,000 couples divorced, over 16,000 of whom lived in Maricopa County.

In the 55th episode of The Couples Expert Podcast: Playing Indoors Is Not Just for Kids, Stuart Fensterheim speaks with Julie Wells a marriage and family therapist based out of Irvine, CA. Do you remember, as little kid, how great it was to play games with your best friend, inside on a rainy day? The special bond that those games created between you, the laughter, and the carefree feeling that the rest of the world had just melted away doesn’t have to be a thing of the past. Listen as Stuart and Julie as they talk about the importance of sharing fun time with your partner, rain or shine, weekend or weekday, and how those special moments can fill you both with the wonderful closeness that best friends should and deserve to share.

In the 54th episode of The Couples Expert Podcast: Can Questions Really Help You Fall In Love, Stuart speaks with Arthur Aron who is best known for his work on intimacy in interpersonal relationships. Is love a guessing game? Or is there a map for helping people have close, connected relationships. Is love something that just happens accidentally or could you fall in love by asking the right questions? Tune in to this episode and find out.

Welcome to the 53rd episode of The Couples Expert Podcast: What Is A Dink Anyway and Do I Want To Be One. In this episode, Stuart interviews Robyn D'Angelo as they delve into the meaning of the word "dink", and the perceived benefits of having a "child-free" relationship.

Welcome to the 51st episode of The Couples Expert Podcast: Picking Up Love, Piece by Piece. In this episode, Stuart speaks to us about the incredible possibilities of healing and trust that can come from one true special relationship. And he provides us with some important insights into the power of Emotionally Focused Therapy and how the specific proven techniques of this method can actually help mend past traumas through connectedness, acceptance, trust and love. It only takes one.

Welcome to the 50th episode of The Couples Expert Podcast: Uncommon Relationships; Uncommon Love. Monogamy, non-monogamy, polyamory, polygamy, polyandry, sex-positive, swinging, open, LGBTQ... What does it all mean? And is it right for me and for my partner? As humans can be identified by their individual fingerprints, so can they identify themselves in absolutely unique and wonderful ways in the worlds of love, sex, and relationships.

Welcome to the 49th episode of The Couples Expert Podcast: Having a Resilient Relationship Using Mindfulness. This episode is particularly special because it involves two couples therapists who willingly share an intimate and revealing conversation not only about what mindfulness is and how it can help everyone to have a better relationship with their partner, but about how it plays into their own lives.

Welcome to the 47th Episode of The Couples Expert podcast: Synergy Equals Loving Deeply. How do you keep all the areas of your life working together? Every relationship has boundaries and expectations; however, when one cannot meet the other's expectations, the relationship starts to crumble. Having synergy in a relationship can help keep it healthy and loving. Join us in our episode with Michael Diettrich-Chastain, LPC, DCC to discuss the path to your relationship's synergy.

Welcome to 46th Episode of The Couples Expert podcast: Valentines Day Is Not For The Faint Of Heart. Have you thought of a special Valentines gift for your partner yet? Every February, we hear a lot about love and valentines and hearts and flowers and kisses. Depending on your relationship status and your state of mind, this is either super exciting or it’s a total downer. Join us in our episode with Renee Segal to discuss what many couples expect during Valentines and how you can make it one of the most memorable for you and your partner.

Welcome to 45th Episode of The Couples Expert podcast: Its all about Playing and Connecting. Connecting with a beloved is one of the most wonderful experiences in life. When we connect with someone we love, loneliness goes away and we feel full of joy within. We yearn for this connection, yet we often find it elusive. Join us  in this episode with Rebecca Wong, LCSW to discuss what playfulness in a relationship can do to support connection with your partner.

Welcome to 42nd  Episode of The Couples Expert podcast: Staying In Love In Spite of the Bumper-to-Bumper Relationship. You think you’ve found your perfect match because the two of you are terrific together, have the same goals and a wonderful romance BUT you both live in different cities due to work, families, whatever, and one or  both have to commute between two cities. If you want to stay in love in spite of a commuter relationship, then join us in this podcast episode with the therapist, speaker, and author of Super Commuter Couples, Meagan Bearce.